Boman Irani And Gajraj Rao Explore The Complexities Of Fatherhood On 'Be A Man, Yaar'

Fatherhood can be challenging without a guidebook. Indian actors Boman Irani and Gajraj Rao have excelled in this role, as discussed on Yuvaa's "Be A Man, Yaar." Their open conversation explores the complexities and joys of being a father, blending personal stories with professional insights to help others understand modern fatherhood.

Gajraj Rao highlights the influence of one's social circle on parenting. He credits his friends for being positive influences and mentors. Observing them has enriched his journey as a father. "Mein khush kismat hu ki dost ache mirrors mujhe mil gaye jinko dekh ke mujhe sikhne milta hain ki family aisi honi chahiye," he shares, emphasizing the importance of strong role models.

Boman Irani focuses on the lessons parents teach through actions rather than words. He believes setting a good example is vital, as children mimic what they see. "You are never prepared to become a good father, but there are certain guard rails of good parenthood, which are, they will do what you do and not what you tell them to do." Irani also stresses mutual respect and love within the family as key elements of effective parenting.

Their conversation with Nikhil Taneja, Yuvaa's co-founder, reveals their shared belief in vulnerability's power. They argue that showing flaws and emotions to children is strength, not weakness. Rao notes, "Aapke bacho ko pata hona chahiye ki unka baat superman nahi hain, go haarta bhi hain toh vo aapse zyada relate kar paayenge," advocating for openness in parent-child relationships. Irani echoes this sentiment: "Crying is not a display of weakness, it's a display of strength, you're willing to cry in front of your loved ones, usme buri baat kya hain?"

Apart from real-life experiences, both actors have portrayed various father figures on screen. Irani discusses understanding his characters' humanity, even those with negative traits like Virus in "3 Idiots." "Virus is a horrible guy, but why do people accept because of the hope ki, sudhar jaa," he explains.

Rao approaches antagonistic roles differently by ensuring they remain unlikable. He recalls fans' reactions to his villainous role in 'Bhanwar,' appreciating his commitment to the character's negative aspects as an achievement. "Ye mere liye shocking tha kyuki pehle mujhe aise public acknowledgment nahi mili, vo mere achievement hain ki maine vo character ka positive graph dhundne ki koshish nahi ki, ki acha Aadmi tha bichaara," he reflects.

Influence of Personal Backgrounds

Their discussion also touches on their backgrounds—Rao's challenging childhood and Irani's upbringing without a male figure—and how these shaped their views on life and fatherhood. They reminisce about early theatre days and cinema's solace while confronting loneliness and judgment.

For more insights into these remarkable individuals' lives and philosophies, viewers can watch full episodes of "Be A Man, Yaar" on Yuvaa's YouTube channel and Amazon Music. This final episode explores male emotion and vulnerability while celebrating two men who have navigated fatherhood with grace and wisdom.